It's easy to see a difference between the have's and the have not's. You can see how people that want something carry themselves. When people have some idea of a "path" that was just laid out, they have no urgency, no hunger. But they're the ones always talking about how they're "so busy" and "working so hard". Ironic. It's the same in the gym. The ones making no progress at all, looking the same year after year are always the ones posting pics of their meals, their pathetic workout routines. Why do you that? The fad following fit chicks and "personal trainer" bros killed the fun in all this. The "you don't have to lift heavy weight to get strong" bullshit on your terrible sets of laughable exercises is what makes the gym a cringeworthy experience. If I hadn't spent so much time getting to this point, I would walk away from the gym altogether. But I've been here and will be here long after the half witted, half ass training crowd has come and gone.
This applies to crossfit and whatever imbecilic "functional" training bullshit I see these natty twerps preaching in the gym. It's a simple equation to be strong and look how you want.
1) EAT REAL FOOD. If you ever preach protein powders you are the equivalent of a drug dealer selling lemonade powder.
2) TRAIN HARD AND LIFT REAL WEIGHT. If your muscles aren't failing, burning, shaking, YOU ARE NOT DOING SHIT FOR GROWTH.
3) DO NOT CROSSBRAND. If you were Nike shorts and Adidas shoes, you might as well wear a shirt saying "my fitness is just like my wardrobe...I have no idea what the fuck I am doing."
The fit expo has come and gone. If there is anything the expo made me realize, it's that fitness is 95% a bullshit industry. Every year being dumbed down, saturated by fads, and demeaned by idiots with 6 packs. Small legs, small shoulders, no strength, no realness, no real ATHLETES overcoming any adversity. And no one spreading knowledge or teaching anything but OH USE MY PROMO CODE AND BUY MY SHITTY CLOTHES. I watched and observed all these big names in fitness interact in cookie cutter fashion, not even giving a fuck about the people they were talking to that waited hours and spent their hard earned money to meet their "role models". It demoralized me and my thought that maybe this was the industry I belonged in, maybe even wanting to compete. Never will I step on a stage after seeing what the state of the industry is.
BUT, the 5% of the real, genuine athletes actually giving back and giving something of substance gave me hope. It showed me that amidst all the flare and jogger pants and brightly colored bullshit supplement drinks, there are still REAL, GENUINE people in fitness. @sethferoce is one of those people. He had a real smile on his face, an actual sense of joy and a real, whole hearted handshake when he met me. He really asked ME questions about my life, about what I do, he actually gave a shit about the people that wanted to meet him. It was one of the few times I have ever felt like someone has actually WANTED to meet me and hear what I have to say. It was a breath of fresh air. He really gives a fuck about spreading knowledge of the things fitness personalities refuse to talk about. He's real. He's humble. He's everything the industry needs. After that day I was almost ready to put down the barbells and step away, but after meeting him and a few other people there, I'm never going to put the weight down. @primevallabs
Determination, drive, ambition, and discipline...we all have these qualities, but depending on where we are in our lives influences how much they show. We all go through funks, we have our downs and our bottoms but there is one great thing about times like that. THEY ARE TEMPORARY. Those times is where we learn who we are and what we can endure. In our highs, our triumphant moments, we are enjoying them, not learning from them. The lowest of our lows teach us, they show us a side of ourselves that maybe we didn't know we had. It's raw determination and drive that comes to the surface when things seem their darkest. I've hit bottoms time and time again, each one worse than the last. Telling myself again and again, I will not end up here again. And how I got out of them? Clawing and fighting my way out to get somewhere better. And I learned more things about myself and my abilities in those times than any of the happier times in my life.
So if you're down and out, thinking things are at their worst, get angry, get hungry for something better. No one will give you a ladder out of the shit, depend on yourself, dig deep and prove to your own mind that you are you're only savior.
We all have our struggles, and we all cope with them how we do. But every day, when you lay your head, are you able to say you are trying your best? Your best might not be enough for some people and that's okay. Very rarely will anyone ever see eye to eye with you and how you view the world. Don't feel like you're disappointing anyone if you're not keeping pace with some of those around you. Sometimes what we have going on inside goes deeper than anyone can understand, and progress might seem slower than who we compare ourselves to. It's a matter of steps. One step, then another, then another, and so on until one day you open your eyes and realize you have reached the goals you have set for yourself. Nobody builds a dream body overnight or even over a month, or a year, just like nobody builds the perfect life overnight. So keep pushing, and push those around you, before you know it you'll be much farther and much better than when you started.
The squat is the perfect metaphor for life blah blah blah...we've all heard that before. Everyone is entitled to what they think is a proper squat. Some will say only go to 90, some will say go ass to grass. Usually, unless you're a pro, and you say 90 is all that's needed for a proper squat, it's because you can go all the way down and back up again.
Going half way on anything will create half the growth. Cuz the work in half, get half the results. Especially in this microcosm that is fitness. But the same goes for life, relationships and business.
Some will say oh, he/she/they takes drugs and THAT'S why they look like that or lift like that. Drugs are a part of this industry, like it or not. Will that ever be acknowledged and accepted by the biggest names living and maybe even talked about? No. That doesn't make it wrong and that doesn't mean that because you are natural you are somehow above those that aren't. Because when it comes down to it, people don't want to see mediocre strength, so-so physiques, or semi-huge statutes. The people want freaks, to make them awe and point and stare. The industry wasn't built around giving people images of fathomably achievable physiques and strength, it was built around showing to the world people that do what others can't and looking how others can't.
So stop half repping your way through this. Go all the way down and all the way up. Show people what they could only dream of doing.
There was a time I spent the vast majority of my time being a fuck up. Living off of top ramen and tuna, with in n out for dinner 7 nights a week. Spending my time being irresponsible and living my life with reckless tendencies. Just pulling back when I thought I was about to get into serious trouble. I thought I was happy. I thought it was okay to be a bloated, substance abusing, and rude asshole. I told myself that the lifestyle I was trapped in was an alright way to live.
I drifted far, far away from the person I used to be and the person I wanted to be. So I clawed my way out of that hole, with help of course, and made my start into a better way of life. Working at a gym at 18 taught me so much, and even more so now at 25, the gym has brought me back from the dead. I'm never going to say getting out of bad habits and destructive behavior is easy, but it is possible. Every struggle in the right direction is worth it. The longer you struggle seems to make the victory at the end so much sweeter. The gym made me realize everything from the roof over my head and the shoes on my feet to the strength and appearance of my body is something earned, not given.
How much do you love the gym? Even if you're dragging, hurting, depressed or stressed, love the gym because it's always there to help you be better.
Fitness is changing. The industry is different. It's no longer setting goals like winning shows or magazine covers. Sponsorships barely even pay the bills anymore. Then the "30 day challenges" with cash prizes raked in the $ for fitness "icons" we don't care about anymore. Then it was crossfit and "functional" training. Mass monsters are lucky to hit the 1 million mark on any social media platform. What's next? I think it's fashion. Every figure in the industry is setting their own trend on what to wear, girls coming out with dime a dozen leggings they sourced from Alibaba.com, and aesthetic bro's showing off their re-invented fitted shirts. Maybe street wear will make its way into the fitness industry? Imagine seeing the $600 shoes, the $150 hoodies and bogo shirts and off-white stringers. Supreme bogo dumbbells, or balenciaga trainers actually being worn...to train in. It's interesting to watch what progresses in this industry, and how far it has come from just being "big". Maybe the need for size and mass and over powering strength while still looking aesthetic will come back. Who knows? 2018 should be interesting for everyone involved.