My god he’s gotten so big all of a sudden. Thanks growth spurt for stealing my chubby faced little lad 🙈 he’s right into Pokémon cards at the moment and will happily do any chore offered to him if it means he can increase his collection.... might have to make the most of it hehe
It's amazing how young people are when they start receiving messages about consent (from birth, really). .
My 3 year old was playing on this old downed tree today when a little boy came up behind her. He wanted her spot. It was a good spot. So he started pushing her. She told him to stop, rather forcefully I might add. 3 year olds aren't known for tact. Which I not-so-secretly admire. So he took the next best spot which was smashed in a crack next to her. He then proceeded to poke her in the cheek telling her to move because he wanted her spot. I was about to step in to assist them when she shouted, "Stop touching me!" And hit him in the arm. He ran away crying. .
Let me preface with: I didn't expect anything more or less with a situation with two toddlers with little impulse control and immature brains. .
But I couldn't help but see this as a teachable moment. For myself. "Don't step in and tell her hitting isn't nice. Don't tell her to use her words (she already had) instead of physical force to protect her body." Sure, I would prefer everyone to have emotional intelligence and an understanding and respect for boundaries and consent. But they don't (speaking of adults here). .
If I had stepped in and told her that hitting someone who was physically violating her space and body was wrong or not "nice" then that would be the first notch, of many that society will tell her, in her toolbelt telling her that her body is not her own. That boundaries and consent are fuzzy and gray (they don't have to be.. if we can raise kids who are allowed to be and supported in being assertive about their own autonomy).
We can raise empowered children who turn into empowered adults by teaching them consent through modeling it to them. Give them a say in what happens to their bodies. Let them say no. Even to us, the parents. Toss out punishments. Embrace connection, guidance, and unconditional support and love (that is backed up by our actions.. it won't feel like unconditional support if we tell them to be nice while also telling them to be firm in their boundaries.)
“I’m sorry for what I said to you when I was sleep deprived”
Ladies/mummies/moms DO NOT underestimate sleep deprivations ability to turn you into an emotional hormonal wreck! You will become forgetful. You will want to run away. You will want to cry. You will want to stab your partner when they are snoozing soundly but you can tell your little one is gearing up for a 3am meltdown . You will feel like you are going doolally, you will feel like a total failure as a mum (you’re so not though, trust me on that one ) you will want to lose your shit & probably will lose your shit at some point BUT that little bundle who likes to keep you awake and pushes you to your limit....... thinks you’re the greatest mum in the whole world 🌍 hold onto that thought!!!! You got this mummy!
I do love the lighter mornings but I'm not a fan of my kiddies waking up before 6am every day as it is so light. I'm like a bear being poked in the eye with a stick 💤💤
On another note, I'm so proud of how amazing this beauty is turning out. She had a dazzling report from her teacher last night at patents evening.
Have a great hump day, fingers crossed for sunshine 🌞
That little face 😍 We’ve been getting up to all sorts of messy play this week which has been super fun for both of us. Since I’ve made the conscious decision to press pause on my working life for a while, I have really felt a sense of ease in the time I spend with R. I’m not having to hold my breath, worry about deadlines and where my next job is coming from. I’ll worry about that later. For now, I’m right where I need to be, and I can only tell you how beautiful it is ✌🏼
Went outside for about 5 minutes with the family today. Trying to make spring weather happen but no going to lie... it was super cold! So we grabbed some clean snow to eat🙈... and headed back in. It was nice being out of the house even if just for a couple of minutes. We can’t wait for the warm weather to make its appearance ☀️ #thegarzalife
Motherhood is not just challenging but confusing too. Yesterday, when I was back really late from office, I was disappointed to see Eric not paying any attention to me. I was so very upset and got really quiet after that. I went to the washroom and left the door slightly open enough for me to watch him, waiting for him to realize that I was gone from the spot. After two minutes (two long minutes which felt longer than it sounds) he says "daddy, I forgot mummy". It was the most innocent and sweetest moment ever and I felt like stupid for thinking he did not miss me.
The next morning, while I was ready to head to work, Indu Didi comes to take care of Eric. He wakes up and asks me to pick him up. I did, hugging him tight for a good 5 minutes, then switched on the TV to distract him and leave home. But Eric was watching my every move and when I reached out to the door, he began to cry for me. I made up my mind to spend a few more minutes with him and when he was distracted enough, I left without saying a good bye . The guilt I felt after that, knowing how wrong I was, was overwhelming. It feels selfish of me to leave without saying good bye. I have my own reasons when I do something like this but that does not justify my actions or it is not what Eric deserves. I'm so sorry my dear baby boy blue.
I get so confused and make wrong conclusions and decisions sometimes. I also believe it's what most most mothers must feel too. But knowing that I'm enough and that lessons are learnt helps. #ericranjan#mumfie#honestlyparents#honestly_captions
Happy world Down syndrome day, I’ve only really experienced this new brave world in the last few weeks since the birth Harper, but the support, love and positive mind set is amazing to see I’m proud to be apart of the #theluckyfew movement so here’s my crazy family of five rocking our socks for this special day to spread the word about Down syndrome and the important message that there is nothing down about it #worlddownsyndromeday
I always wanted a sister of my own, in fact I always wanted a twin. I craved the closeness of sharing everything with someone. My brother and I were super close for years and we then embarked in different journeys gor a fair few years and rekindled our siblinghood a few years back. Watching these two makes me so happy, watching Birdy be the big sister.....she takes so much pride in knowing Mouse, and recently they have started having little games and moments - that only sisters can. #myhappycapture#thatsdarling#sisterhood
You guys- if you haven’t checked out @unraveledacademy you need to! They are doing a HUGE promo right now that for reals is LEGIT. First it’s only $15 a month, and seriously it’s worth it. The community of photographers is amazing, and the lessons are taught by some of my favourite photographers out there. I have learned a ton already and it’s easy to learn when the person giving the lesson is passionate about what they teach. Second- when you sign up by March 23rd you get FREE Presets ($90 value) made by @twyla.jones. Third you get a chance to win a spot at the upcoming retreat which is so good you have to see what that entails for yourself! I never do these kind of things but I 💯 believe in what Unraveled Academy is all about and want everyone who is interested in learning to check it out! Link is in my profile! 💃🏻
Even though the weather begs to differ, it is in fact spring, and that means lots of baking and lots of fresh blooms!
Today I tried our new PAM Baking Spray and it was amazing! The sides of my cake didn’t stick the pan at all and since there is flour in the spray itself I didn’t have to dust my pans separately!
I know it sounds minor, but every second counts when you’ve got two rugrats running around!!
How are all of you celebrating spring? I recommend using @pamcookingsprayofficial and baking! 🤗
PEACE OUT ✌🏼 .
I’ve had this urge, this calling, this message to take a break from social media. I’ve ignored it and resisted it. .
I thought how can I possibly take a break, I’ll have to revisit the start date of my program, the algorithm will punish me for it, I need to show up consistently for people to receive my message bla bla bla.
So in turn I have felt uninspired, unclear, foggy headed and just plain bleh. I’ve aimlessly scrolled and felt empty because it has all been sending me the message that I didn’t want to listen to.
Social media has become really noisy for me so I’ll be clearing and aligning with where I am at in my life and in my business right now.
I’m here to serve and I get to honour my souls callings, I get to honour where I spend my energy and I get to honour what feels aligned for me.
It’s time to create space and create and that might mean a lot of being in nature, a lot of time spilling my ideas onto paper and it will also mean being super present with my loves.
I may pop on to share a blog I’ve been inspired to create, I may not. All I know is I’m taking a step back and I’ll see you on the flip side. .
If you keep ignoring a whisper because it’s not convenient, I dare you to listen this time and respond accordingly. See what doors open 🙏🏼💗
A crazy amount of work being done on our yard means that these two have been outside everyday, forging through creekbeds and up and down the ravine, making caves out of 40 year old rhododendron bushes and pirate ships out of piles of felled trees. I love watching them play and explore. 🌿
I had the pleasure of photographing beautiful @lukamccabe and her adorable little man Flynn for @purpose_hood a few months ago. Luka is about to welcome her newest little family member any day now! 😍 Her motherhood journey is going to be shared on the purposehood blog tonight, so head on over and have a read! ✨
I wish I was the type of mom that had a homemade meal every day and never bribed my daughter with gummy bears. I wish I could say I never had an irrational reaction or total crying meltdowns. Breastfeeding has been my battle, again. Lip tie, tongue tie, mastitis, yeast, pain, bruises, you name it, I got it. This being my second time around I’m reminded, there’s no perfect Mom, there’s no perfect way. The best way for my kids is trusting my gut and not killing myself in the process. This journey isn’t easy but it’s the most rewarding thing I will do. Imperfect is my perfect♥️