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“There is a word for her condition. It’s called a childhood phase. And sadly, it’s something she’ll grow out of.” (from the movie, Charlotte’s Web)
I see her, perched there, curious about the view that lies ahead but peering over her shoulder at simpler days...and I do my best to be that safe spot for her to land.
I hope that no matter how far she forges ahead into adulthood, she always honours that child inside her.
Anyone else parenting a preteen right now? 💕
This week I have lost all track of time. I'm not entirely sure why because nothing has been different this week. I was 2 days ahead of what it actually was when talking to someone the other day 🙈. I love spending my time at home with Leo and I feel I have settled into it finally. However the days have a tendency to roll into one and it can feel really lonely. You realise that it has been days, weeks or even months when people don't check up on you and your little one.
I think raising children is one of the most hardest and isolating things a person can do in life and it is at this time that people say you find out who is there for you. Which is definitly true. More than that I would say it is when you find out who you truly are and what you are made of.
Teaching her to be wild and free, to set boundaries but never limitations. To be kind and to smile. Be beautiful inside and out. Know that having support is helpful , but you also need independence. Making mistakes will happen and that's where learning and growth comes from. Life is too short to settle. Go on all the adventures but have a place to call home. Trust God , he has a plan and is always listening. Believe in yourself. Teaching her all this and more , but I'm also still learning. @kaleydawnphotos
Was having a chat with a friend, and she mentioned the idea of loving these journals to look back to for herself when she misses that ‘small child’ and for the adult child to get a glimpse into their childhood 🙌🏻 #memorykeeper
It’s almost here! Toys, Tears, and Shepherd’s Pie is a collection of my thoughts on parenting. For any parent, soon-to-be parent, or grandparent, there is plently of opportunity for reflection and hope as you raise and mentor your child. This is meant to be both practical and a reference source for anyone seeking to help their child grow into a flourishing adult. Stay tuned for more annoucements as the release date quickly approaches! #toystearsandshepherdspie#parentingbook#raisingchildren
Either my pretzels are half the size of the pretzels all across Pinterest or I’m missing something. 🤦🏼♀️ The other day the doctor asked if Lizzy knew her colors and I said “sure she does” but as she’s started calling these colors what they’re not I’m not so sure she does 😂 so here’s to using candy to learn colors.
| New City; New Life; New Lifestyle |
I've been working really hard recently on figuring out what I want in life. All these life changes have been overwhelming and I've been trying to find ways to make it easy on not only the kids, but also for myself.
Here's my plan thus far:
1. Spring clean - sanitize, de-clutter, organize.
2. Get healthy - meal plan, exercise, continue my attemps at quitting smoking, and get back into my hobbies (mental health is just as important 😉).
3. Routines - change up our daily routine slightly to match the growth and change in my little family. I've been finding our day routine is very spontaneous at the moment and some stability and expectation is great for kiddos development. Also our bedtime routine really needs to be better handled!!!
4. Create a business plan - that's right. A business plan 😎 Gonna work on making my dream business come true.
If you wanna stay up to date on how I tackle these things, maybe get and give some pointers, make sure to press the "Turn notifications on" button!
One of the reasons I chose Network Marketing is summed up in this photo.
I determine my working conditions and that family/ life/ work balance.
There is no manager/ boss I need to seek permission from.
There are no long hours away from my daughter + the cherry 🍒 on top is she gets to see first hand what it means to work hard and be of service to people.
My mum was a Social Worker all her profession life and contributed greatly to our society through her work.
But I was unaware of it as a small child. As far as I knew she was just sitting in an office with other adults.
One thing I know for sure about our children is they don’t learn from what they are told, they learn from what they see and experience.
That’s why I regard this profession so highly, because Sloan is exposed to so many great experiences and learning opportunities, and that’s invaluable to me as a parent 💕
To be honest, when I first had Bub I used to try to do too much, to be the perfect Mumma and Wife. Thankfully I've calmed down (somewhat) and now appreciate the time I have with Bub. I no longer sneak away while he is playing to do the dishes, fold the washing or create tiles for Instagram 😉
I think it's really important to remember why you're staying home. You are not a stay at home wife. You are a stay at home Mumma. Just as your Hubby is spending the day at work, so are you spending your day at work, raising your child. The washing WILL wait. Enjoy every moment that you have with them. They grow up too fast!! The good thing is they have a lot to learn along the way so your days will always be productive, even if you're still in your pyjamas at 3pm!!
Valuing you and your role as a Mum.
I can’t even count the amount of times I’ve felt like I’m not of value or not bringing anything to this family because I’m not in a normal day job. It’s an awful feeling and something that a lot of us mums feel. Sometimes it feels like everything you do just is never enough because it isn’t a paid job. (imagine if it was a paid job! You’d be loaded because you work 24/7!!!) Today I want you to remember that your job is important, you are raising incredible humans who will make their mark in the world.. Your job is important even when you feel like the monotony will never end. One day soon you WILL come out the other side and when this happens you will be so proud of the beautiful, intelligent, thoughtful and kind hearted humans that stand by your side.
We were lucky enough to have guest speaker #drjudithlocke come and speak at our daughter’s school last night with some fab parenting tips and reminders. I love how positive psychology has hit mainstream nowadays. One of the tips was not to overly analyse and engage in your child’s day. I completely agree that as parents we really overdo it sometimes. Knowing when there is a real problem versus attention seeking is really important and not letting negativity take hold. Picked up lots of other useful tips too. #parenting#perth#thebonsaichild#drjudithlocke#judithlocke#mlc#children#raisingchildren
Alhamdulillah udah jalan grup arisan ke 53. Arisannya macem macem dari buku ampe panci 😂😂 dari produk @tigaraksa_educational
Berawal saya ikutan arisan di grup ke 32 bulan Desember tahun yang lalu, trus sekarang
Dicemplungin di beberapa grup arisan. Di grup 53 saya jadi PJ arisan. Semoga dimudahkan. Aammiinn.. #rorompokuring#rktim#tigaraksaeducationalproduct#raisingchild#raisingchildren
Dua hari berturut turut saya tak sengaja dikomentari begini : PERKATAAN adalah DO'A
Pertama ketika ada teman yang mengucapkan "mba Yol, dari ** semoga menjadi ***😍" Saya menimpali, "kita tumbuh bersama, saling mendukung ya, aamiin."
Lalu ada yang menimpali lagi. ---Percakapan ini di grup watsap jadi anggota grup bisa saling mengomentari. Seseorang ini berkata "perkataan adalah do'a"
Saya tersenyum dan mengaamiinkan kembali di dalam hati. 😊
Kedua, di grup parenting yang saya ikuti, saya dipanggil ibu shaliha. Saya jawab, "diaamiinkan saja ya bu, soalnya saya belum shalihah shalihah amat (ketauan dah ngomongnya Betawi amat - di mana tanah dipijak di sana langit dijunjung 😆😆)
Lalu sang guru berkata "aamiin ya bu, perkataan adalah do'a"
Saya terdiam sebentar. Saya ambil 3 kata tersebut. Betul, perkataan kitapun adalah do'a. Do'a adalah sesuatu yang kita munajatkan ke Sang Khalik. Pastinya yang baik baik dong ya - masa do'a untuk kejelekan diri? Ga mau lahhh.. 😛😛Pun kepada yang pernah membuat kita yang tidak nyaman (baper lah istilah kerennya).😁😁 Karena setiap yg kita ucapkan, akan berbalik ke diri kita.. (QS 99:3&4)
Di tengah malam ini saya tersentak lagi. Saya terbangun karena mendengar si bungsu menangis, lapar mungkin. Saya susui, si bayi tertidur lelap kembali. Saya lihat wajah ketiga anak yang dikaruniakan kepada saya.
ﻻَ ﻫَﻮْﻝَ ﻭَﻻَ ﻗُﻮَّﺕَ ﺍِﻻَّﺑِﺎﻟﻠّﻪِ
Merenung, sudahkah perkataan yang baik untuk mereka? Karena perkataan adalah do'a. Sudahkah berbahasa tubuh yang baik kepada mereka? Karena bahasa tubuh juga sebuah do'a bagi mereka. Sudahkah membatin yang baik untuk mereka? Aarrgghh.. Apalagi apalagi saya, ibu yang melahirkannya. Perkataan saya menembus ke langit tanpa disortir. Cessspleng.. Wuuusss..🚀
Ampuni kekhilafan saya, yaa Rahman.
Semoga anak anak kami menjadi anak yang sukses dunia akhirat, bahagia dunia akhiratnya. Aamiin.
INTERNATIONAL HAPPINESS DAY
Recently it was Happy Happy Day! 😄
My toddler’s laughing eyes. I think they are beautiful and full of joy. I stare at them all the time. You can tell a lot through a person’s eyes, but we can also filter a lot through our own eyes and experience.
Yesterday, we went to D-Park and had an amazing time laughing pretty much the whole time except the moment I spoke to a certain young lady there.
Her definition of beauty was shaped by culture, distorted thinking and shame. She believed herself to be ugly. She was not. She was happy that she was able to lose a lot of weight. But in the eyes of others, apparently she still did not fit the description of beauty. My heart fell and I just wanted to hug her. I pray that she will not be confined to her world’s standard and that she will find joy in who she is. I pray my daughter will be happy with herself as she is now and that we can raise her to love herself and others well.
Let us be mindful of our words as it can break or build. Which one do you do? .
Lagi viral kakak menginjak adiknya itu. Saya ga mau baca dan men share postingan tersebut. Kenapa?
Pertama saya lagi membentuk memori positif, so otak reptilnya saya non aktifkan terlebih dahulu. Mengisi dengan hal hal yang indah, motivasi positif, intonasi lembut, raut wajah yg teduh. Jauh jauhin deh berita "abang napi" yang sangat banyak berbentuk ancaman, mengeluh dan teman temannya (menulis kata katanya saja masih mikir ini 😂) Kedua, keinginan anak itu sama, INGIN DISAYANGI OLEH ORANG TUAnya. Makanya ada anak yang caper, cari perhatian sama ibu bapaknya dengan nangis tanpa sebab, merengek yg ga jelas, dsb. Mereka memastikan cinta emak bapaknya masih 100% untuk dia. Tapi ga bisa membersamai mereka 24 jam. Kalo anak anak dikawal 24 jam terus kapan kita makan, mandi,bagaimana suami saya bisa pergi ke kantor mencari nafkah? Trus bagaimana caranya? Saya belajar dari ibuk Retno Hening bagaimana membuat seorang Kirana bahagia. Yaaa menjadi ibuk yang bahagia dulu, menyimpan kesedihan, kecapean dan mengeluarkan muka bahagia, senyum dan positif thinking (lagi lagi afirmasi dan good vibes berperan di sini). 😍😍 Ketiga, masalah lingkungan terdekat seperti kakek, nenek, eyangti, akung, tante, om saya sering pasang badan terlebih dahulu. Maksudnya bukan untuk berantem ya (😂 😂😂) cuma memberi penjelasan apa yg boleh, apa yang ga boleh dilakukan, diucapkan, mimik apa yg dipakai. Karena saya dan suami sudah sepakat apa yg sebaiknya dilakukan dan tidak dilakukan. Daaann keluarga terdekatpun diminta melakukan hal yang serupa (atau yg mirip kami lakukan) agar tujuan pengasuhannya tercapai (aamiin ya Allah). Jadiiii, kita berhak menyanggah dl dari kita sbg orang tua.
Ketika mendengar "kamu akan punya adik, kamu ga disayang, lho" pleasee para ayah bunda yang baik sanggah lah, pastikan kakak merasa adik - adik mereka bukan rival mereka.. Saudara aja jadi rival bagaimana mereka akan bertemu dengan lingkungan luar yg lebih luas? Kalimat sederhana "siapa bilang ga disayang? Sayang mama masih 100% ko utk kakak". Bisiki ketika berdua saja dengan anak.
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