This is your Sunday reminder that you are an erring, fallible, imperfect human, and a mistake, rejection or failure doesn't make YOU a mistake, a reject, or a failure 🙅🏼♀️.
We looooooove to do this thing called “globalizing,” where we turn guilt (“I did something bad”) or rejection into unhealthy shame (“I am bad/broken/unlovable”). Globalizing prevents us from learning from our mistakes and leads to defensiveness, fear, paralysis, avoidance, and disconnection 😬 (and guess who’s a pro at it?! 🙋🏼♀️).
So the next time you screw up or don’t meet expectations (your own or someone else’s), pay attention to your inner voice and don’t let shame shut you down 💪🏻. #youareenough
We all have points in our lives in which we doubt ourselves, thinking "am I good enough?", "will I have what I want?", "Do I have what it takes?", what I'm here to tell you is that it's okay to feel those emotions and normal, however, what is not right is backing out of something because your fear takes over you. You see the mind is a very powerful element it can be your best friend or your worst enemy. The mind has this domino effect, for example, if you let fear of failure take you over it might lead to low/lower self-esteem, which then later could lead to depression, depression could well, lead you in a very dark path. When I want to do something but my fear takes me over, what I do is have "The Death Bed Scenario" in my head. I imagine I'm an old man in my death bed and I'm looking back at my life, I look at this specific moment I'm in now, the present, and say to myself "Will I regret it if I don't go after it?" If the answer is no then I'll move on but if the answer is yes then I'll do it because the thought of not attempting it, not trying and the "what if" question is worse than the fear of failure.
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Here are my top THREE things that you need to do in order to achieve your weight loss goals (or any goal really!):
1️⃣️ TRY something
3️⃣️ LEARN from that failure
🔃 Repeat steps 1-3 until you find what works for you
Why are we so scared to fail? Fear of failure seems to be a hard wired thing for most people now - which totally sucks! 😟
Guess what? Being scared of failure is actually a pretty normal thing to experience, but putting off potentially life changing decisions because you're scared? That's life LIMITING! So why not try my three step process instead? You can apply it to any aspect of your life!
Can you think of something that you've been wanting to do but haven't yet because you're scared you fail? What is it?
🎀 Please don’t ever feel the need to compete with or compare yourself to anyone else. 🎀
Change your way of thinking about other people’s progress. Whether it’s someone you share the same goals as, or whether it’s someone who lives a completely different lifestyle to you - learn to appreciate and accept that that’s just the way they are. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Leave no room for judgement - you never know why someone is living/working out the way they are, how far they are into their journey, or the obstacles they may have faced/be facing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I truly don’t think enough people realise how much easier it would be to live in peace with one another rather than constantly feel the need to outshine the next person 👣 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
We rise and we and grow by lifting and supporting each other 🌱🌸🌞🦄🐝🌏⚡️🌈💫
ATYCHIPHOBIA:FEAR OF FAILURE
And when Peter was come down out of the ship, he walked on the water, to go to Jesus.
But when he saw the wind boisterous, he was afraid; and began to sink
WHAT EXACTLY DO YOU SEE?
Peter Took His Eyes Off The Goal & Sank. And So It Is When We Focus On The Imperfections That Daily Lives With Us As Women.
Life At So Many Times Wont Be Perfect.
~No's For Answers
~Bank Accounts In Red
~Difficulties In Decision Making Etc.
Always Remember That These Are Your Boisterous Wind Blowing By And Times Like These Aren't Time To Be Afraid.
Fear Is A Sinker And It Drowns Every Dream Of Your Life Waiting To Be A Reality.
Stay Woke On Your Goals Regardless. Launch Into The Deep! Cos You Know What? You Are So Much Of A Greater Force Than You Can Imagine.
The Power Which Bids You To Come Is In You To Conquer The Wind #Staywoke To #Sink#Fear#conqueryourfears#fearisasinker#staywokeonyourdreams#focus#fearoffailure#atychiphobia#greaterishethathasbidmetocome#womenliftingwomen#theriser#riseabovefear#beautyfromashes
February 24th & 25th, 2018.
What with that brand new, fulfilling, loving cup? You want it for sure. Everybody wants it’s own personal Holy Grail. That ultimate answer to the questions your heart asks. Sometimes it’s there and your fear of failure comes into the picture and begins messing up with your optimistic vision of bringing beauty in your life. And you know what? It’s because of the numerous expectations you have. Expectations are tricky because they help you go forward and reach some goals, they also can block you from even starting up.
You know something is happening inside your chest. You know you are good, you know you want good, it’s time for eating your piece of the cake. Reminder: you have to bake it. Your cake. If you want to be sure to drink from the loving cup, create it. Craft it. Work without expecting any reward.
What you’re gonna do today will look a tiny effort, nothing important. It’s untrue. It’s a big step towards the Grail. Because you do will do it for the love of it and not for what you can gain.
Enjoy today, create, do what you love, what makes you feel alive, big things always grow from the small steps you take.
As soon as I am inspired by an idea I set my mind to achieve the vision. Fear of failure no longer holds me back, as I realize that failure is not a measure of my worth. #liberation#fearoffailure#desireforsuccess
Your relationship with failure plays a massive role in determining your success in everything in life
1️⃣If you’re afraid of failure, you won’t try
2️⃣If you’re worried about what others might think, you won’t try
3️⃣If you’re living life in fear, you won’t try
Do you really want to live your life not doing the things you want to do because you’re worried about what other people might think? ...
This is why I believe most people fear failure - because they’re too caught up in the thoughts and expectations of other people. This is always a losing formula and can cause unhappiness in your own life
As soon as you make the conscious decision to go after what you want, despite the fear of failure and expectations of other people - you get to truly be yourself ...
Do this and if you’re a footballer, apply it to the way you play on the pitch. This applies to everyone in any industry and in any set of relationships with other people.
👌Be yourself, express yourself👌
Too many of us let work effect out health in the most negative ways possible.
1. Too much stress
2. Not eating
3. Not drinking water
4. Staying sedentary
5. Lack of sleep
6. Poor food choices
7. Lack of exercise
The list goes on! If you allow your job to continually push you to a lower quality of life then you will find yourself paying the price in the long run wether it’s -Diabetes - Anatomical Dysfunctions
- Alzheimer’s -Obesity
- Heart Problems
Let’s prevent those things. Take control of your health and realize what REALLY IMPORTANT here.
The follow up video to the porcelain bowl throw, from a couple posts back. I like to see the evolution from start to finish, it’s such an amazing process and I wish more people would jump in like I did! How many times have I heard, “I’ve ALWAYS wanted to do that!” What’s stoping you? #fearoffailure#openyourmind
A client said to me “I have always been followed by failure, I only passed my PHD the second time round!”
How is this a failure of any kind?
This is someone who has convinced themselves that they are a failure and that it follows them around even though they have achieved much in their life.
They have chosen the title of failure because there actions didn’t live up to their expectations and so they cannot see the positive...it doesn’t matter that they have a PhD it only matters they had to take it twice to get the grade...which meant they failed. This is flawed thinking...you could be someone who has everything in life from money to a beautiful marriage but if you thought this way you would still be miserable.
A lack of self belief is like going through life with shackles.
We can let fear hold us back or we can let it drive us towards new possibilities.
What about you?
Are you on the right path or are you side tracked or distracted.? The only way to freedom is to free your mind.
Mind chatter keeps you in the comfort zone
it keeps you from pushing yourself through challenges .
If we allow fear to direct us instead of holding us back, life will look a whole lot brighter better.
So break free and let's live a life we deserve.
Can I get a woop woop #yesyes
Fear is suuupppeerrr powerful. When I first started my coaching journey... I was honestly fearful. What would my family think? What would my peers think? Would I be successful? 😩🙈👎🏽 The list of fears go on and on. But then the OTHER fear kicked in. What if I’m in debt my whole life?! What if I have to retire when I’m 65? 🧐 But then I thought... WHAT IF I SUCCEED?! 😍😍 THAT mindset has brought me to the highest of highs. 2 years ago, I took a leap of faith and decided to get my masters degree. I had NO MONEY as a brand new teacher. So I took out multiple credit cards to pay for it (the college didn’t accept loans or student aid) 👎🏽 When I graduated... more fear kicked in... Like girl... are you going to be able to make these payments?! 🤣🤣🤣👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽 Ok really not funny... BUT... 6 months into TAKING A CHANCE ON MYSELF IN MY BUSINESS.... MY MASTERS DEGREE AND THOSE CREDIT CARDS ARE PAID OFF 🙏🏽🙌🏽🙈🙋🏽♀️🧜🏽♀️💅🏽 And I know you’re probably looking at me like I’m some magical unicorn... NO! One of my top coaches (been in the business 4 months... and full time college student)... is making a FULL TIME income... and just spoke on a top 100 Team call THIS WEEK because of her SUCCESS! 😍😍😍 So what’s holding you back from hurdling over those fears boo?! #gogetit#yourchoice#fearoffailure
I'm the kind of girl that doesn't even bother to start things I know I can't finish, I won't play the game if I think I'll lose, if something gets too hard I quit before I can fail. 😅
When I hurt my back two and a half weeks ago doing my new ab and booty program, a part of me wanted to give up - to quit before I failed again. .
But what I've learned over the past few months (thank you personal development! 😎) is that quitting IS the failure.. that not taking the chance because I'm afraid keeps me stuck where I am - physically, emotionally, AND spiritually... and that I've been holding myself back for my entire life.
So today was Day 1. Not just because I restarted my program, but also because it was the day I stopped holding myself back. Today was the day that I stopped letting my fear of failure, of the unknown, control my life. 🤗
Wouldn't mind taking the lady out of town! 💯😁 Facing your fear of failing can come in a positive or negative outcome. You have to have a positive mindset of the fear of failing to push your mind, and spirit to say I need to change something that wasn't working. If you can analyze what was working, and what was not working. The fear of failing will not come up as much while you are doing your daily/business life. Overall it is still back there in your mind 🤔 you still push yourself to change, overcome, and adapt to your surroundings. Basically the negative mindset of "fear of failing" is the opposite of positive. That brings self doubt, that I can't do this, or quitting mindset. Learn to get your mind ready for failure. So that you don't get stuck in that negative mind frame! Motivation Thursday! 💯🔥 #C3luxurylife 📷: @gypseetravel
Daily Dose of Sunshine, Day 14:
You’ll be scared,
Scared to fly;
You’ll wonder if you’ll fall,
Or whether today, you’ll fly.
Let yourself go.
Let hope replace fear,
For how else will you know?
Take the leap of faith,
Don’t be afraid of falling.
Fall if you must today,
But if you fly,
Look, your dreams are calling.
In your journey of achieving unparalleled heights of success and happiness, be relentless, be fearless, be doubtless and be dauntless. Don’t let the fear of falling keep you away from the pleasure of flying. For only those of fall and break, can truly fly and make.
Be stouthearted in your pursuit of happiness and success! ☀️❤️
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People ask about this a lot. Happy to share: “Fall Down 7 Times; Rise Up 8”. It’s an old Japanese koan. Life will knock you down. Get back up. DM if you need someone to talk to - lots of degrees and life experience in this stuff. Just never give up, yeah?