FAMILY DONT MEAN SHIT SOMETIMES
My mum has told me a lot about what her family put her through, when i was too young to even remember. It's taught me a lot about the fake "family orientated" front Desi people put on. My mum had me as a c-section. My dad was back home and hadn't got his paperwork to come to the UK yet. My mum did all of that on her own. She was really ill after and almost died. She was in a coma and only had a 50/50 chance of living. My nanny was the one who looked after me during these periods of time. After my mum got out of hospital, she lived with her older brother and sister in law. My mum told me her SIL would play music loudly and leave my mum downstairs by herself and mum would be in a lot of pain as she was still recovering and sometimes struggled to hold me, and i'd cry but her SIL gave 0 shits. My mums SIL was such a bitch that my mum would avoid eating food because she was scared of the drama she would cause. When my mum was well enough to go out and about, she would spend most of her day in the town centre, pushing me around in a pram. She wouldn't eat as she had no money at the time. The only time she would freely eat was if she went to her sister's house. It's obvious cause in old pictures my mum looks hella underweight. Eventually, my mum's SIL kicked off and my mum's brother kicked my mum out with baby me. My mum was essentially homeless. My dad still wasn't in this country either. Luckily back then the system was good and my mum got a council house quite quickly as ofc she had a baby, too.
My mum recalls these memories with a lot of pain. She was forced to be dependant on her older siblings. She even used to have to take money off them just for nappies and they'd hesitantly give her 10/20 quid a week.
Point is, blood don't mean shit. My family are poorer than the rest of my extended family and my dad has 3 daughters which is another reason our family look down on us.
My mum wishes she could cut all ties but because of drama, she just grits her teeth and gets on with life. It's so shit.