"What you are saying makes me angry...help me to understand what you think and feel." This does not mean that we have to agree with each other or change the other person's mind. It means that we listen for understanding, not for rebuttal.
Seeking to make sense of what is so important to each other does not work when we fight for our way as the right way, diminishing our argument in the process.
I love weddings and love to see couples and family members having fun. I love the entire process from beginning to end. However, none of that means anything if it wasn't perpared for properly.
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Imago Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT recently chatted with Prevention Magazine about warning signs that a relationship could be toxic. "You might not have realized it in the beginning, but over time a narcissist's true personality traits will be revealed. “When you're with a narcissist, there will only be one person who matters, and it won't be you," says therapist and couples counselor Evie Shafner. (These are the issues that kill a relationship every time.) A narcissist will try to manipulate or guilt you into meeting their needs while ignoring yours. "They mostly talk about themselves and aren't really responsive to what's going on with you. And the biggest issue is that they have no empathy,” says Shafner. " For more great tips on spotting a toxic relationship, click on the article below!
When we express anger in adulthood, what we feel underneath is pain and fear. Fear that we may not get what we want or fear that we may lose something we have. Pain and fear present itself as a weakness, therefore we don’t like to express these feelings. Also, anger doesn’t hurt like pain does so we prefer to sit in anger than feel our pain.
Having a baby is one of the most exciting times in a couple's life, but for couples coping with infertility and the treatments, conceiving a baby can be trying. Often, the struggling couple feels isolated and emotionally drained, and their family and friends may inadvertently compound the stress.
To avoid making matters worse, it is important to start by educating yourself on infertility. Having basic knowledge on this subject matter will better position you to help. While you are still gathering knowledge, be kind enough to ask them what you can do to help and then actually help where you can. You should also respect their privacy - don't tell everyone what your daughter, son or friend is going through. Most importantly, the bible says "iron sharpens iron," use this time to encourage and inspire their faith in the Lord and while you are at it, find time to pray for them.